For Fathers: If you are a part-time dad (as I am), that doesn’t mean you have to act like a part-time dad. Right?
Regardless of how much time you get with your child(ren) or where they rest their head at night, you matter to them. We only get one father.
Don’t let someone else take away your gift or fill the void of your absence.
It is important that you realize and always remember that it is your responsibility to maintain the relationship with your child(ren), not theirs. Even if your child(ren) are teenagers or adults.
Be proactive in communicating with your child(ren). Keep the connection and bond alive. By being proactive and reaching out to your child(ren) on a regular basis. This builds their confidence and self-esteem. Children with high levels of self confidence and self-esteem will make better life choices. Better life choices lead to a more successful and happier life.
I know there are times you feel forgotten. Some of us dads have even been rejected by our child(ren) after the divorce. Just stay the course regardless. Keep sending out love to your child(ren) and expect nothing in return. You will feel great and you will find peace in your life. You also won’t have any regrets later in life.
Do This Now: Stop and take a moment to reach out to your kid(s) and let them know they are your #1.
Do This Always: Be consistent. Help yourself to be consistent by making future appointments to reach out to your child(ren). Set up indefinite calendar reminders or alerts on your cell phone to remind yourself to reach out to your child(ren).
Now you are one step closer to raising The Undivorced Child.
Please share this with someone you think this message will help.
Your friend,
James